Bioidentical hormone specialist Dr. Kathy Maupin and relationship therapist Brett Newcomb discuss the issue of mismatched sexual desire between couples.
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This podcast discuses dealing with mismatched sexual desires in a relationship. Sexual disparities are very common in middle age. With decreased testosterone levels men and women experience diminished libido. Women come in to see Dr. Maupin and get their hormones replaced. They then have their sex drive back but their partners are not reciprocating.
Many people ask “what’s normal” in terms of sexual activity. Brett Newcomb and myself frequently see people who want to know how often they should or shouldn’t be having sex with their partner. The truth is there is no normal. What is normal for one couple may be completely different for another couple. It’s important to find a middle ground through respect and communication.
Couples need to tell each other what they want. We’re brought up being told that it is unacceptable to talk about sex. When a couple hits a point in their relationship where their sexual desire has diminished and become mismatched, it’s important for them to talk about the problem and work together to find a solution. It’s also important to recognize each other’s love languages. Dealing with intimacy problems starts with understanding how the other person receives and expresses love.